What a sensual massage is
A sensual massage uses long, slow strokes, warm oil and soft lighting to relax the whole body and heighten the senses. Unlike a sports or deep-tissue massage, the aim is pleasure and connection rather than treating a problem.
It can be given by a professional or shared between partners at home, and it is often the first step people take before trying tantric massage.
Sensual, tantric and erotic massage
The words overlap. A sensual massage usually means slow, intimate full-body touch. A tantric massage adds breathing and energy work from tantra and often lasts longer. An erotic massage is more openly sexual, and some include a happy ending.
Our guide to erotic massage studios explains how professional studios describe and price what they offer.
What happens in a session
Expect a warm, dimly lit room, music and plenty of oil. Sessions usually run 60 to 90 minutes, starting on your back and moving slowly over the whole body. Talk about what you are comfortable with before you start, and say if anything does not feel right.
With a professional, agree the price and what is included when you book, shower before, and treat the masseuse with respect; see our etiquette guide.
Giving one at home
Warm the room, dim the lights, use a good massage oil or a body-safe lube, and keep towels nearby. Start with the back and shoulders using slow, flowing strokes, and keep one hand on your partner's body at all times so the touch feels continuous.
Go slowly, ask what feels good and do not rush towards anything sexual. Many couples find it a great way to reconnect; our guide to tantric sex takes it further.
Your questions, answered
What is the difference between a sensual and an erotic massage?
A sensual massage focuses on slow, relaxing, intimate touch; an erotic massage is more openly sexual.
How long does a sensual massage last?
Usually 60 to 90 minutes.
Can I give my partner a sensual massage?
Yes. Warm the room, use plenty of oil and slow flowing strokes, and talk about what feels good.