What a Fleshlight is
A Fleshlight is a male masturbator: a soft, textured sleeve inside a hard plastic case shaped like a large torch, which is where the name comes from. It was invented in the US in the late 1990s and has become so well known that people use the name for any similar toy.
The sleeve is made from a soft, skin-like material, and the inside has textures such as ridges, bumps and chambers designed to create different sensations. The end cap controls suction: tighter for more, looser for less.
There are many versions, from discreet designs that look like a drinks can or flask to sleeves moulded on adult performers, plus smaller travel sizes.
How to use one
Warm the sleeve first by running it under warm water for a minute or two, then dry the case. Use plenty of water-based lube, both inside the sleeve and on yourself; never use silicone lube, which can damage the material. Our lube guide explains the types.
Adjust the cap to change the suction, and go at whatever pace feels good. Some people use it alone, and some couples use it as part of foreplay.
Many people also use it to practise lasting longer, using the stop-start method described in our guide to edging.
Cleaning and care
Clean it after every use. Take the sleeve out of the case, rinse it inside and out with warm water, and use a little toy cleaner or mild unscented soap if you need to, then rinse well.
Dry it fully before putting it back, either by leaving it on a drying stand or patting it with a lint-free towel; trapped moisture leads to mould. Once dry, a light dusting of cornflour or renewing powder keeps the material soft.
Store it in its case, away from heat and away from other toys, as the material can react with some plastics. A well-looked-after sleeve can last a year or more.
Choosing and buying
If it is your first one, a mid-intensity sleeve with a standard size case is a good start; very tight or heavily textured sleeves can be too much at first. Travel and "quickshot" versions are smaller and easier to clean.
Buy from the official brand shop or a reputable adult shop to avoid cheap copies made from unknown materials. See our guide to adult shops in person and online.
Discreet packaging is standard from most UK retailers, and our guide to choosing and cleaning sex toys covers the basics for other toys.
Your questions, answered
What lube should I use with a Fleshlight?
Water-based lube only; silicone lube can damage the sleeve material.
How do you clean a Fleshlight?
Rinse the sleeve with warm water after each use, dry it completely and store it in its case.
How long does a Fleshlight last?
With proper cleaning and drying, usually a year or more of regular use.
