What a swinger club is like
A swinger club is a social venue for open-minded adults, usually couples and single guests, where people meet, chat and, if everyone agrees, play. Many clubs have a bar, a dance floor, a lounge and private or semi-private rooms. Plenty of guests spend a large part of the evening simply socialising.
Clubs often run themed nights, couples-only nights or evenings with limited entry for singles. Check the club's calendar before you go. You can find venues in our swinger clubs listings.
Before you go
Going as a couple? Talk honestly beforehand about what you're both comfortable with, and agree a signal for when either of you wants to leave. Plenty of couples decide their first visit is just for a look around, and that's completely fine.
Expect to show ID and pay an entry fee. Some clubs ask you to become a member, and many have a dress code or theme. Bring a towel or a change of clothes if the club suggests it, and arrive sober enough to make clear decisions.
It also helps to pack light and practical. A small bag with a spare top, toiletries and your phone charger is plenty. Most clubs have lockers, and you'll feel far more relaxed knowing your things are safe.
The etiquette everyone follows
Consent is the golden rule. No means no, and so does silence or hesitation. Ask before you touch, ask before you join, and accept any answer graciously. In a couple, approach both partners, not just one.
Respect privacy too. Phones and cameras are usually banned on the floor, and you should never share who you saw at a club. Hygiene matters, so shower when you arrive and use what the club provides. Our guide to consent and boundaries is worth reading before your first night.
Making it a good first night
Take your time. Grab a drink, have a wander and chat to people. Friendly staff are usually happy to give newcomers a tour. Most regulars remember their own first visit and are welcoming.
If anyone makes you uncomfortable, tell a member of staff straight away. A well-run club will deal with it. You can also let other members know what to expect by leaving a review once you have signed up.
After your first night, talk about it together. What did you enjoy? What felt a bit much? There's no rush to go back, and no rule that says each visit has to go further than the last. Plenty of couples find a level they're happy with and stick to it for years.
Your questions, answered
Do I have to take part in anything?
No. Many people go just to socialise and watch the atmosphere. You decide what you're comfortable with, every time.
Can single people go to swinger clubs?
Many clubs welcome singles on certain nights, often with limited places. Check the club's calendar before you go.
What should I wear?
It depends on the club and the night. Smart going-out clothes work for most venues, but check for themed dress codes.