Be on time, and keep your word
Turn up at the agreed time. Not early, not late. Arriving early can be just as awkward as arriving late, especially for incall. If you're delayed, let them know as soon as you can.
If you need to cancel, give as much notice as possible. Last-minute no-shows cost people time and income, and some businesses won't accept a booking from someone who has let them down before.
Bear in mind that people often have bookings back to back. If you turn up twenty minutes late, your time may simply be shorter, and that's fair. It's not personal. It's just how a diary works.
Hygiene matters
Shower beforehand, brush your teeth and wear clean clothes. It sounds obvious, but it's the most common thing people mention when asked what makes a good guest. If you're offered a shower on arrival, accept it graciously.
Go easy on alcohol, and never arrive under the influence of drugs. Many businesses will turn away anyone who is clearly drunk, and they're right to do so.
Think about the small stuff too: trimmed nails, no heavy aftershave, and saving the garlic dinner for another night. None of it's complicated, but it all adds up to a better time for both of you.
Respect and boundaries
Treat the person you're meeting as a professional. Be polite, listen, and accept their boundaries without argument. Never push for something that hasn't been agreed, and always stop the moment you're asked to.
Don't ask personal questions such as real names or home addresses, and never take photos. Our guide to consent and boundaries covers this in more detail.
Keep the conversation friendly and light. Most people enjoy a chat, but nobody wants to be quizzed about their private life or lectured about the work they do.
Paying discreetly
Have the agreed amount ready, in the agreed form, and hand it over at the start without being asked. No fuss. Placing cash in an envelope and leaving it somewhere visible is a common, discreet way to do this.
Don't try to renegotiate. If you'd like to extend a booking, ask politely and accept the answer. Being straightforward about payment helps everyone relax.
When it's time to go, go. Get dressed, say thank you and leave without lingering. If you'd like to book again, ask politely. Being remembered as easy-going and respectful is the best way to be welcomed back.
Your questions, answered
What if I am running late?
Let them know as soon as you can. Be prepared for the booking to be shortened or rearranged.
Is it rude to ask about boundaries?
Not at all. Asking politely before you meet is respectful and helps avoid misunderstandings.