Prostate massage and the male G-spot

What and where it is

The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that sits below the bladder and in front of the rectum. It helps make semen. It can be felt about 5 cm inside the rectum, towards the front of the body (towards the belly button), as a firm, rounded bump.

Because it is packed with nerve endings, many men find pressing or stroking it very pleasurable, which is why it is called the male G-spot.

Internal and external massage

Internal massage means stimulating the prostate through the wall of the rectum with a finger or a toy. External massage means pressing gently on the perineum, the skin between the scrotum and anus, which reaches the prostate indirectly and is a good place to start.

Many men combine prostate massage with other touch, and some find it leads to a deeper, longer orgasm.

Doing it safely

Go slowly and use plenty of lube, as the anus does not lubricate itself; see our lube guide. Trim and file fingernails, or use a glove. Relax, breathe and start with gentle pressure rather than poking.

Use toys designed for anal use with a flared base, so they cannot slip in too far. Prostate massagers are curved to reach the right spot. Clean everything after use. Stop if it hurts, and see your GP if you notice blood, ongoing pain or problems passing urine.

Health checks

Prostate massage for pleasure is not a medical treatment. Prostate cancer is the most common cancer in men in the UK, so if you are over 50, or over 45 with a family history or of Black heritage, talk to your GP about a PSA blood test, especially if you notice changes when you urinate.

For partners exploring this together, our guides to pegging and choosing and cleaning toys go further.