What sapiosexual means
Sapiosexual describes someone who is mainly attracted to intelligence: a sharp mind, curiosity and good conversation turn them on more than looks. The word comes from the Latin "sapiens", meaning wise.
It became popular in the 2010s, especially after dating site OkCupid added it as an option in 2014.
A sapiosexual person can be any orientation: the word describes what attracts them, not which gender.
Signs you might be sapiosexual
You find a great conversation more attractive than a great body. Debates, wit and someone who knows a lot about something turn your head.
Bad grammar or a lack of curiosity is a quick turn-off. You fall for people through what they say, often in long messages or late-night talks.
It overlaps with demisexuality for some people, who need a mental and emotional connection first; see What does demisexual mean?.
Orientation or preference?
Many LGBTQ+ people see sapiosexual as a preference rather than an orientation, because it describes a type, like being attracted to tall people, rather than who someone is attracted to.
Critics also point out that "intelligence" can be used to look down on others. Most people who use the word simply mean they value a good mind.
Whatever you call it, knowing what attracts you helps you find partners you connect with.
Dating as a sapiosexual
Look for spaces where conversation matters: book clubs, talks, quizzes, and dating profiles with real content rather than just photos.
Ask open questions and listen. Intelligence comes in many forms, from emotional to practical to academic.
As in all dating, be respectful and clear about what you want; see our guide to consent and boundaries.
Your questions, answered
What does sapiosexual mean?
Being mainly attracted to someone's intelligence.
Is sapiosexual an orientation?
Most people see it as a preference rather than a sexual orientation.
Where does the word come from?
From the Latin "sapiens", meaning wise.
