Incall and outcall explained

The short version

Incall means you go to them. The escort or agency has a private place, often a flat or apartment, and you visit at an agreed time. Outcall means they come to you, usually to your home or a hotel room you've booked. Simple as that.

Many listings offer both, some offer only one. You'll normally find this on the listing itself or on the business's own website. If it isn't clear, it's a perfectly normal question to ask when you get in touch.

How incall usually works

With incall, you're given a general area when you first make contact and the exact address closer to the time. Don't be put off by that. It's common practice, and it's there to protect the person you're visiting. Arrive on time, not early, and follow any directions you're given about where to wait or how to let them know you're outside.

Incall is usually the simpler option. There's no room to arrange and no hotel to think about. The trade-off is that you travel, so check the area and how long it takes to get there before you confirm.

A tip from experience: save the address somewhere you can find it quickly, and check the parking or nearest station in advance. Wandering up and down a street ringing to ask which door it is doesn't make for a relaxed start.

How outcall usually works

With outcall, the escort travels to you. Expect to be asked for the full address and sometimes a landline or hotel room number so the agency can confirm you're where you say you are. That check is a sensible safety step, not a sign of distrust.

Travel time and distance can affect cost, and some areas may not be covered at all. If you're booking a hotel, read our guide to hotels and outcall first, as each hotel has its own rules about visitors.

For outcall at home, have the place reasonably tidy, put the pets in another room and make sure there's nobody else around who wasn't mentioned. If the escort arrives and finds a flatmate or a friend there unexpectedly, they're well within their rights to leave.

Which should you choose?

If privacy at home matters to you, or you're nervous about hosting, incall is often the easier first step. If you're travelling for work or you'd rather stay put, outcall may suit you better. Neither is better. It just depends on your situation.

Whichever you pick, the basics stay the same: agree the time, length and price clearly before you meet, and treat the person you're meeting with courtesy. Our guide to contacting and booking walks through what to say.