What it means
Hotwifing is a form of consensual non-monogamy in which a woman, the hotwife, sleeps with other partners while her husband or partner knows, agrees and usually enjoys it. He may be present, hear about it afterwards or simply know it is happening.
Couples into it sometimes call themselves a stag and vixen: the vixen is the hotwife and the stag is the partner who enjoys her adventures and reclaims her afterwards.
How it differs from cuckolding and swinging
Cuckolding often involves humiliation or a dominant and submissive element; hotwifing is usually about pride, admiration and her pleasure, with no humiliation. Our guide to cuckolding explains the difference.
In swinging, both partners usually play with others. In hotwifing it is mainly the woman; see polyamory, open relationships and swinging for how the styles compare.
Ground rules
Couples who do this well talk a lot: what is allowed, whether he is there, condoms, how much they share afterwards, which nights and with whom, and a way to pause if either feels jealous. Rules should be agreed by both, never pushed by one.
It must be her choice. If one partner is pressuring the other, it is not hotwifing; it is coercion.
Staying safe
Meet new partners in public first, tell your partner where you are and use condoms, with regular sexual health checks. Many couples find it easier to explore at swinger clubs or sex parties, where everyone knows the rules, or through the apps in our swinging apps guide.
Your questions, answered
What is a hotwife?
A woman in a committed relationship who has sex with others with her partner's knowledge, agreement and usually encouragement.
What is the difference between a hotwife and a cuckold?
Hotwifing focuses on her pleasure and her partner's pride, without humiliation. Cuckolding often includes humiliation or a dominant and submissive element.
What does stag and vixen mean?
A couple where the woman (the vixen) sleeps with others and her partner (the stag) enjoys it and reclaims her afterwards.
