What twink means
In gay slang, a twink is a young or young-looking gay or bisexual man, usually slim, with little body hair and a boyish look. Most twinks are in their late teens to mid twenties, but it is about appearance as much as age.
The word is used on dating apps, in gay culture and in adult content. Some men happily describe themselves as twinks; others dislike being labelled.
It is informal slang. Used affectionately among friends it is usually fine, but it can come across as reducing someone to their looks.
Where the word comes from
The most popular story is that it comes from Twinkies, the American snack cake, as in "sweet with no nutritional value". Others link it to the older British slang "twank" or "twinkle-toes".
The word has been used in gay communities since at least the 1960s, and spread widely with the internet and apps like Grindr.
Its meaning has broadened over time, and today it is used around the world, including in the UK.
Related terms
A bear is a larger, hairier gay man, often with a beard. A cub is a younger bear, and an otter is slim and hairy. A jock is athletic and sporty, and a twunk is a muscular twink, a mix of twink and hunk.
A daddy is an older man, often attracted to or dating younger men, and a femboy is a man with a feminine style; see our guide What is a femboy?.
These "tribes" are common on gay dating apps, but they are loose labels, not boxes. Many men fit several or none.
Respect and dating
On apps, labels can help people find what they like, but they should not be used to shame anyone. "No fats, no fems"-style profiles are widely criticised in the community.
Always check someone's age if you are unsure: twink describes a look, and anyone you meet must be over 18. Our guide to the UK age of consent explains the law.
For safer sex and testing, see our guide to sexual health clinics.
Your questions, answered
What is a twink in gay slang?
A young or young-looking, slim gay or bisexual man with little body hair.
Is twink offensive?
Not usually among gay men, but it can be reductive, so use it carefully.
What is the opposite of a twink?
Usually a bear: a larger, hairier, often older gay man.
