Browsing and contacting
Use a private browsing window if you share a device, and consider a separate email address for anything adult-related. Keep your phone locked, and think about who else might see message previews or notifications.
When you contact a business, share only what they need to arrange things. For outcall, that will include where to come, but there's no need to share your workplace, family details or anything else personal.
Think about payments too. Paying cash, as many businesses prefer, keeps things simple. If you pay a venue by card, check how its name will appear on your statement, especially on a shared account.
Your AskedFor account
You can browse AskedFor without an account. If you register, you can save places and write reviews. Before you post a review, check what name your account shows and choose one that doesn't identify you.
You can manage your details from your account page. Our privacy policy explains what information we hold and why.
Use a strong, unique password for your account, and sign out on any shared device. It takes a few seconds and saves a lot of worry.
Respecting other people's privacy
Privacy works both ways. Never photograph or record anyone without clear permission, never share someone's personal details, and never name people you see at a venue.
When writing a review, describe your experience without including anything that could identify a member of staff or another guest. Reviews are moderated before they're published, but it's better not to include identifying details in the first place.
The same goes for screenshots. Sharing someone's messages or profile with friends, even as a joke, can do real harm. Keep private things private.
If your privacy is threatened
If someone threatens to expose you unless you pay, don't pay. Keep the evidence, stop contact and report it to the police. Our guide to spotting scams covers this in more detail.
If you see your own personal information somewhere on AskedFor where it shouldn't be, please contact us through our report form and we'll look into it.
If a message, email or call threatens you, take a deep breath. Blackmailers rely on panic. Slowing down, keeping the evidence and getting help is almost always the right move.
Your questions, answered
Do I need an account to use AskedFor?
No. You can browse freely. An account lets you save places and write reviews.
Will my real name appear on my reviews?
Use an account name that doesn't identify you, and leave personal details out of what you write.